Learning to Drive Again
Getting back to the here and now, just one year after she received her marriage license, Rachelle Friedman (Chapman) is equally excited about another license her new drivers license. Our favorite newlywed has been learning to drive (again) and passed her driving exam earlier this month, and now shes loving the independence of being on the road and getting on with her life. Heres a look at what Rachelles up to these days.
Hows the first year of married life been?
Amazing. I mean weve been together for so long that we already felt like an old married couple. But its just a good feeling to say that Chris is my husband. I cant believe we just had our 1-year anniversary!
Q. Describe what was frustrating about having to ride as a passenger for the past two yearseven after you had the van but still couldnt drive.
Well I felt sort of like a child. For instance, when I would visit some friends in Virginia Beach I would literally have to have my mom drop me off and pick me up. Most of the time wed leave the front seat in for convenience so I wasnt even able to sit next to Chris when we drove together.
Q. Can you describe how you learned to drive again, as well as getting used to the hand controls and the whole system? Easier or harder than you thought it would be?
We had to do a physical test first to determine that it was safe for me to drive and to determine which adaptations I might need. I was determined to keep using my manual chair so I had to show that I could do a transfer. Some transfers go better than others but it takes about 5 minutes to transfer each way. Day one we were on the road and I even went on a major interstate. I was nervous, but i did it! After only a day and a half of driving we decided I was ready for the official driving test! I passed! It was actually way easier than I thought it would be!
Q. Where do you drive your van on a typical day now? Any big trips planned with you driving solo?
For now I take the wheel if we are just going around town these days. But the other day I did go somewhere alone. I transferred alone, drove across the street to go shopping and transferred back in! I did the whole process alone and it was so empowering t feel that independence.
Q. What advice would you give someone like yourself about getting the courage to learn to drive again?
Well Im actually a quadriplegic so the whole process of driving is even harder because I have no grip. But for anyone learning how to drive again, I know how scary it can be! Just think about the huge independence It will give you. Once you get going its not so bad!
Q. Now that youve crossed Learning to Drive off your list, whats next for you and Chris?
Ive been working on doing some public speaking because its what I love to do. Im also in the beginning stages of writing a book! Ive been doing my best to get stronger despite not having traditional physical therapy and actually driving is really helping with my strength. All of those transfers will really add some muscle! Chris and I have been doing great and we have started talking about having a family. I need to regain more independence and get off some of my medications first, but we are looking forward to the future.
For those who arent familiar with Fachelle, weve been following her progress since she suffered a freak accident in 2010 that caused a disabling spinal cord injury. You can check out the previous postings by clicking any of the following: